First of all, I hope I spelt that right!
I’ve witnessed a lot of office affairs in my own office – some very obvious, some a bit blurry, some publicly displayed, some trying hard to hide (but of course still obvious)… and I don’t see anything wrong with it, provided both parties are not hooked up with anyone else, by marriage especially.
I’ve read an article once, saying it’s easy to fall for your own colleague just because of one simple reason. Most people are at their best when in the office, be it behaviour, the way they dress, the way they carry themselves, etc. I guess it’s true, especially if you work for a company that requires a lot of competing, you tend to display your best. But I guess if everyone remains at the highest level of professionalism, none of the unwanted would happen. And of course, those who are at their best in the office may be the total opposite at home! So think twice the next time you drool over somebody just because they look hot in the office. 😉
I personally think how you address each other in the office is important. Nowadays, people call everybody ‘Babe’. Or the Malaysianized ‘Beb’. But in the office, I think it’s more appropriate to just call your colleagues by name, no? I mean, I’ve never called my male colleagues ‘Babe’. It just doesn’t sound right. I’d seriously spare that only for people close to me. Obviously it sounds a little intimate to be addressing your colleagues with that, so please, avoid it! It could trigger some ‘perasan’ moments, for all you know…
Second most worrying trend – the SMS. Obviously it’s OK to sms your colleagues, work related. And if you are on a more friendly term with your colleagues, after office hours. But I don’t see the point of sms-ing even the simplest stuffs!
Like, where are you… thought you said you’d be here to settle some work with me… or, got anything to discuss with me at 5? (which is the end of the office hour)…or, is everyone in the meeting room already?
If someone is not there to do the work with you, then just do it yourself… or if someone didn’t say anything about any discussion, then just go home… and just go to the meeting room if it’s time for the meeting, for goodness sake!
Limit the sms for important stuffs. Limit the conversation only when you are at the office. In fact, I don’t think one should be on a too-friendly manner with colleagues of the other gender at anytime of the day. I don’t blame the guys alone, because lately, from what I’ve heard and seen, women too played their part shamelessly.
Prevention is always better than cure, anyway.
Just my two cents!